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An EXTRAORDINARY opportunity
A new group gathers at the Awaken Studio – Explore – Connect – Integrate – Empower

Wise Men Sharing – a Wisdom Circle for ALL Men

  • Share Wisdom
  • Share Experience
  • Share Inner Knowing

A Group of Courageous Men Speaking and Witnessing from their Heart. Willing to Share from their Life Learning and Experience

  • Create Connection
  • Relieve Isolation
  • Trust Intuition

Monthly 2nd and 4th Wednesday Afternoon 1:00 pm to 3:30 pm

Sharing Circle – Speaking from the heart of Life Experience

Wednesday Afternoon events designed to expand information and open participants to new inner awareness, internal integration and community connection.

Talking events will take place in a traditional talking and sharing circle. Communication and sharing utilizes a compassionate and respectful communication technique. All participants are encouraged to participate with any sharing as they wish and have the right to pass.

https://www.phillipcoupal.ca/Wise-Men-Sharing-Community

Attendance is at the participants discretion, drop in attendees are welcome. Regular attendance is encouraged and rewarded. Those who attend regularly are more likely  to reap the full benefit of attending. Fee structures are on a sliding scale. Attendance fees are as follows: Drop in is suggested at $25.00. Those who commit to attending regularly and register on line pay $20.00. As always with the Awaken Studio sharing  circles, those who are unable to pay the suggested fees are welcome to attend and pay what they know is available to them. These fees go directly to supporting the space and continuing the work of building community for men.

As always if you have any questions, concerns or curiosity about this event please let me know via email at phillip@phillipcoupal.ca or you can call me or text me at 416-557-7312. If you call please make certain to leave a message and a telephone number where I cam able to reach you.

All the best and with LOVE

Phillip

A philosopher is a wise man
distinguished for wisdom and sound judgement
while a sage is a wise man
distinguished for wisdom and from experience.
 
~ Unknown

Join the Wise Men Sharing Circle at the Awaken Studio

Wise Men Sharing - a Wisdom Circle for ALL Men www.phillipcoupal.ca

Wise Men Sharing – a Wisdom Circle for ALL Men http://www.phillipcoupal.ca

Wise Men Sharing

Wednesday Afternoon Talking Circle
March 14, 2018

Share Wisdom
Share Experience
Share Inner Knowing

Join a Group of Courageous Men
Willing to Share from Life Learning

Create Connection
Relieve Isolation
Trust Intuition

 

  • I am looking towards this event with so much hope and love.
  • There is huge potential in exploring the power and wisdom of the elder.<3
  • Wednesday March 14 at the Awaken Studio
  • Pay what you are able option. 🙂

Wednesday Afternoon events designed to expand information and open participants to new inner awareness, internal integration and community connection. 

Talking events will take place in a traditional talking and sharing circle. Communication and sharing utilizes a compassionate and respectful communication technique. All participants are encouraged to participate with any sharing as they wish and have the right to pass.

Visit the website at: https://www.phillipcoupal.ca/Wise-Men-Sharing-Talking-Circle

Wise Men Sharing - a Wisdom Circle for ALL Men www.phillipcoupal.ca

Wise Men Sharing – a Wisdom Circle for ALL Men http://www.phillipcoupal.ca

Someone asked me “What got me interested in doing what I do?” My response took some time as I needed to go through a few layers.

Right down at the bottom was that there was nothing here in Toronto that offered me what I was looking for. A safe place for me to gather with other men, to talk, touch and simply be myself without judgement and without having to become someone that I was not.

As a part of the story, I had travelled often to the United States to participate and assist in the events that offered what I was looking for. I wanted more of this and I wanted it with the people who are directly in my life on a day to day basis. I was tired of travelling. I was tired of making myself fit the corporate image that was demanded of me to be a part of these practices, for men coming together to be themselves as they related with other men. In my travels I had learned extensively about “holding space”, “creating a safe and uplifting environment” and ultimately I had learned that one of my strengths was that I could be myself, relaxed and loving as I welcomed men into the spaces and places of my dreams. I could find myself and be myself as I supported the men around me to be themselves.

The beginning of the Awaken Studio took place here in Toronto in March of 2012 as I prepared to offer this space for many events as a part of a very diverse program. The “NEW Beginning” really took place a few months later as I realized that I was totally and profoundly alone and on my own. I realized that my travelling days were behind me and that I simply needed to stand in my own ability to create, innovate and be exactly who I wanted to be. I had to give myself permission to cut the ties and simply be me and go for what I wanted and what I had dreamed of all of my life.

From the beginning, back in 2012 and even before that, for what seems to me to be all of time, I have grown and developed and found myself. I have explored and discovered the strength to stand on my own as I accept help, love and support from those around me. I have learned and found how to transform fear and uncertainty into permission to move forward fearlessly.

As an ongoing practice of my life I express gratitude on a daily basis. Today I find that I am profoundly grateful for the teachers that have brought me to this place. I can even say that I am profoundly grateful for those who have done their best to belittle me, tell me that I am irrelevant, that I will not succeed and that I am misguided for doing this on my own, I am actually able to be thankful to these bullies and miss guided souls.   I am profoundly grateful for the men who I interact with daily for they are the reason that I live. I am profoundly grateful for my husband of over 40 years as he is the reason that I can love the way I do.

The Happy Ending is not nearly so fraught with angst and fear as the New Beginning. The Happy Ending is really an ongoing opening into the world as I become more and more myself, grateful everyday for the world around me and the LOVE and BEAUTY that supports me and nourishes me.

LOVE – LIGHT and Blessings to all.

Awaken Studio Toronto www.phillipcoupal.ca

Awaken Studio Toronto http://www.phillipcoupal.ca

Awaken Studio Toronto www.phillipcoupal.ca

Awaken Studio Toronto http://www.phillipcoupal.ca

Sparkle Plenty

Awaken Studio a safe and loving environment for QUEER expression

Radiance OUTSIDE and Sparkling Fire INSIDE

Let your light shine Join the Queer Heart Talking Circle Second Sunday of the Month 1:00 pm

QUEER HEART TALKING CIRCLE at the Awaken Studio

Information – Questions – Curiousity phillip@phillipcoupal.ca

Sparkle - Awaken Studio a safe and loving environment for QUEER expression www.awakenstudiotoronto.com

Sparkle – Awaken Studio a safe and loving environment for QUEER expression http://www.awakenstudiotoronto.com

When will you ever be over that… ?

Early last December I was out with a friend.  We were in the Gay Village here in Toronto, having a coffee in the late afternoon. We got to talking about relationship and that brought me to speaking about some of what goes on in me and passes through me when I let myself dwell in the pain of rejection and heart ache that I am able to feel in the dissolution of a relationship.

As our conversation developed, I was a bit surprised as I spoke, that the friend that I was with, asked rather abruptly… “When will you ever be over that? … What will it take for you to move on?… It has been so long will you ever be over this?…”

The particular relationship, that I will speak of here, is not what one might expect. This is not about the severing of a relationship between two human beings but the dissolution of the relationship between myself, a human being, and a corporation.

These questions about the way I process my pain and grief  around my separation, left me to wonder and ponder what was going on in me that I could not get over what had happened. This left me to analyze what really did happen and why I should feel so hurt by a business, a corporation.

First, I drew little distinction between the corporation and the human beings that were steering the ship, driving the organization. In my experience, the voices on the phone, the fingers typing the emails were human and not corporate.

Second, I had given, over several years, a lot of my energy, passion, skill and devotion to this company.  I had given my human LIFE force to this corporate organization. Again it never felt like I was involved with a company but with a group of people. I felt I was involved with other human beings. I felt that all was friendly and that I could be vulnerable and continue to operate in my human way, rather than in the defenses of a hard-shelled corporate and very inhumane manner.

Last, I look at what really happened. All of it was business and I simply could not see that the humans I was dealing with could disengage from their money driven pursuit to get to a heart driven pursuit. The humans and the corporate zombies could not be separated. My defenses as a human were compromised and I simply had to close up and wall myself off from the corporate onslaught.

In the face of the dissolution of our once tender relationship, I had to defend myself in the most silent ways. I was threatened, by the other – my former partner, with all of the corporate defenses. These including law suits, the forfeiture of my daily income and finally the threat of unending bullying and threatening if I ever spoke or wrote of the experience that I had with this small and ultimately very predatory and dangerous corporation.

This is the crux of the whole experience for me. That these PEOPLE, fellow HUMAN BEINGS, could not act like the human beings that they looked like; however, instead stayed in their corporate, financial and money driven pursuit. This organization that spoke of spirit, this organization that spoke of heart, this organization that spoke of human integrity and human healing was ultimately unable to operate from a heart centered model and shifted to, what was for me, a rather vicious and hurtful, greedy corporate model.

I wonder to this day what happened to the humans that were involved in the operations of this business. These humans had touched me, showed themselves to me in truly human forms. Part of the hurt and the great sense of fracture in this very painful separation is that the humans disappeared and were replaced by vacuous and dangerous zombie like human forms that were simply robots of American Corporate culture.

So, back to the question, “when will I be over this”?  I don’t think I ever will.

The experience, this rather ugly corporate divorce, has ingrained in me a wariness and deep felt skepticism of corporate culture. The experience has taught me that indeed, corporations are NOT human. This wariness and skepticism has me super vigilant as I work to operate in a heart centered world rather than in a corporate and money centered world.

Everyday this scar that is in me, poses to me the question and offers me the challenge… “Can you live your HUMAN life, and carry on your HUMAN business in life, from a HEART centered model?”

I have determined in my musings and in my stumbling through life that it is my greatest pleasure and my wildest dream to live my life fully from my heart. It is my profound desire to treat each and every being that I encounter in the most humane, kindly, compassionate and loving way that is within me.  -♥-

Here I am everyday bringing forward, my very human SWEET JUICY HEART.

BE well! and Blessed BE! Glad to have a FAERIE name that fits.

SWEET JUICY HEART - www.phillipcoupal.ca

SWEET JUICY HEART – http://www.phillipcoupal.ca

 

What is a heart circle?

Heart circle is one of the central traditions of radical faerie community. Faeries come together in a circle to speak from the heart, and to listen to one another through our hearts. Usually a talisman of some kind (a talking stick, a shawl, a day-glo bubble wand) is used to identify the faerie who is speaking — as long as that faerie holds the talisman, that faerie speaks, without interruption or feedback, and everyone else listens, with as much attention and compassion as we can muster. In some heart circles the talisman is passed around the circle and each faerie has that opportunity to speak or to pass the talisman. In other circles when one faerie is done speaking, any other faerie may ask for it. Either way, passing the talisman is an intimate exchange, often accompanied by a hug or a kiss.

Speaking from the heart is difficult to define, but we know when we’re doing it, and when we’re not. The quality of a heart circle comes as much (or more) from the listening as from the speaking. Many of us have had some or our most deeply emotional, healing, transformative experiences in heart circle. A heart circle can go on for a long time. It’s generally okay to join the circle in progress (between speakers, as the talisman is passed), to take a break, or to leave entirely, although the reason they go on so long is that they’re so wonderful nobody wants to leave.

From: radfae.org

If you want more informaiton or have some questions about this Heart Circle happening in Toronto on January 12th let me know at phillip@phillipcoupal.ca

A new group for Queer men…

Toronto January 12 1:00 pm to 6:00…

Come OUT and feel a part of.

Bring yourself in as we explore Queer and Radical. All who manifest as men in the world are welcome.

What does it mean to be a Queer… Faerie… Faggot… ? 

Information and Registration 

Being QUEER is this Radical?

Being DIFFERENT is this Radical?

I don’t know the answer to these questions. I have been looking, seeking and sorting out where I fit in in the BIGGER QUEER community.

Over the years, I have gone along into so many different groups and events, places and communities, searching for that QUEER identity. I have looked for the place that I will fit in. I have found identities that seem relevant to me and yet I have never been able to experience that integrated feeling of FITTING IN. I have looked at what FAERIE means. I have looked at what GAY means. I have looked at QUEER SPIRITUAL communities. I have looked at the MEN’S movement. I have looked at WORKSHOPS and RETREATS for GAY MEN. Although I can identify I never really feel that I am a part of that bigger gay or queer world.

I have discovered that this feeling of difference is rooted for my in my inability to assimilate myself into whatever group I might be a part of. Not that I don’t long for that feeling of being a part of. Not that I don’t yearn for that feeling of being like everyone else. I do. I want so much to be able to fit in and when I am unable I am often disappointed.

Recently I have looked at the work of Harry Hay, supposedly a founder of MODERN QUEER culture. What I got from reading and exploring Hay was that the act of ASSIMILATING is contrary to QUEERNESS.

“We know how to live through their eyes. We can always play their games, but are we denying ourselves by doing this? If you’re going to carry the skin of conformity over you, you are going to suppress the beautiful prince or princess within you.” ~ Harry Hay

I can totally understand this. At this point in my life, my inability to be chameleon like and simply conform myself and bend myself and my expression of who I am into any structured or even unstructured group seems an impossibility.  This is at the root of why I never felt like I fit in. I simply was not able to give myself over to ASSIMILATION. I have never, in all of my life, been able to say to any group I am fully a part of you. I have never been able to say I identify so strongly with your beliefs that I can say YES I am this kind of QUEER, YES I am this kind of MAN, YES I am this kind of MALE, YES I am this kind of GAY. Until reading Hay, and understanding his statement about ASSIMILATION and how QUEER this inability to ASSIMILATE actually is. My own identity has become stronger in knowing that I DO NOT have to ASSIMILATE. I can actually feel myself as QUEER.

This sense of INDIVIDUAL QUEERNESS is totally RADICAL to me!

I think I have finally found my QUEER IDENTITY. This identity is rooted in that part of me that feels so different, so unlike what is out there. I feel best when I simply embrace my difference and let myself feel powerful. I feel much better, much happier, when I am able to feel myself as being, UNUSUAL and INDIVIDUAL. This RADICAL INDIVIDUALITY is not unlike each star, planet and constellation all through the universe. Each are individual and totally different. I am able to be myself when I realize and operate out of a principle or value that says it is OKAY, actually GOOD be be DIFFERENT, to NOT ASSIMILATE and let my RADICAL QUEER SELF shine.

This great sense of difference has led me to a place where I am calling out to those others who feel this difference. Those who feel this queerness. Who feel separate from the rest. This call is to gather, share, and commune together. Celebrating DIVERSITY. Celebrating DIFFERENCE. Celebrating QUEERNESS.

Please know that I am looking for a group of committed and loving men to start this journey into QUEER COMMUNITY. This communing will take place at gatherings that I will call the: Queer Heart Talking Circle.

For more information about these gatherings, which will take place on the second Sunday of any month, at the Awaken Studio, please contact me through the website or email me at: phillip@phillipcoupal.ca

Queer Heart Talking Circle - Awaken Studio - Toronto MORE? phillip@phillipcoupal.ca

Queer Heart Talking Circle – Awaken Studio – Toronto MORE? phillip@phillipcoupal.ca

A new group for Queer men…

Toronto January 12 1:00 pm to 6:00…

Come OUT and feel a part of.

Bring yourself in as we explore Queer and Radical.

What does it mean to be a Queer… Faerie… Faggot… ? 

Information and Registration 

Being QUEER is this Radical?

Being DIFFERENT is this Radical?

I don’t know the answer to these questions. I have been looking, seeking and sorting out where I fit in in the BIGGER QUEER community.

Over the years, I have gone along into so many different groups and events, places and communities, searching for that QUEER identity. I have looked for the place that I will fit in. I have found identities that seem relevant to me and yet I have never been able to experience that integrated feeling of FITTING IN. I have looked at what FAERIE means. I have looked at what GAY means. I have looked at QUEER SPIRITUAL communities. I have looked at the MEN’S movement. I have looked at WORKSHOPS and RETREATS for GAY MEN. Although I can identify I never really feel that I am a part of that bigger gay or queer world.

I have discovered that this feeling of difference is rooted for my in my inability to assimilate myself into whatever group I might be a part of. Not that I don’t long for that feeling of being a part of. Not that I don’t yearn for that feeling of being like everyone else. I do. I want so much to be able to fit in and when I am unable I am often disappointed.

Recently I have looked at the work of Harry Hay, supposedly a founder of MODERN QUEER culture. What I got from reading and exploring Hay was that the act of ASSIMILATING is contrary to QUEERNESS.

“We know how to live through their eyes. We can always play their games, but are we denying ourselves by doing this? If you’re going to carry the skin of conformity over you, you are going to suppress the beautiful prince or princess within you.” ~ Harry Hay

I can totally understand this. At this point in my life, my inability to be chameleon like and simply conform myself and bend myself and my expression of who I am into any structured or even unstructured group seems an impossibility.  This is at the root of why I never felt like I fit in. I simply was not able to give myself over to ASSIMILATION. I have never, in all of my life, been able to say to any group I am fully a part of you. I have never been able to say I identify so strongly with your beliefs that I can say YES I am this kind of QUEER, YES I am this kind of MAN, YES I am this kind of MALE, YES I am this kind of GAY. Until reading Hay, and understanding his statement about ASSIMILATION and how QUEER this inability to ASSIMILATE actually is. My own identity has become stronger in knowing that I DO NOT have to ASSIMILATE. I can actually feel myself as QUEER.

This sense of INDIVIDUAL QUEERNESS is totally RADICAL to me!

I think I have finally found my QUEER IDENTITY. This identity is rooted in that part of me that feels so different, so unlike what is out there. I feel best when I simply embrace my difference and let myself feel powerful. I feel much better, much happier, when I am able to feel myself as being, UNUSUAL and INDIVIDUAL. This RADICAL INDIVIDUALITY is not unlike each star, planet and constellation all through the universe. Each are individual and totally different. I am able to be myself when I realize and operate out of a principle or value that says it is OKAY, actually GOOD be be DIFFERENT, to NOT ASSIMILATE and let my RADICAL QUEER SELF shine.

This great sense of difference has led me to a place where I am calling out to those others who feel this difference. Those who feel this queerness. Who feel separate from the rest. This call is to gather, share, and commune together. Celebrating DIVERSITY. Celebrating DIFFERENCE. Celebrating QUEERNESS.

Please know that I am looking for a group of committed and loving men to start this journey into QUEER COMMUNITY. This communing will take place at gatherings that I will call the: Queer Heart Talking Circle.

For more information about these gatherings, which will take place on the second Sunday of any month, at the Awaken Studio, please contact me through the website or email me at: phillip@phillipcoupal.ca

Queer Heart Talking Circle - Awaken Studio - Toronto MORE? phillip@phillipcoupal.ca

Queer Heart Talking Circle – Awaken Studio – Toronto MORE? phillip@phillipcoupal.ca

YES, I have been searching! Searching for the TRIBE, you know that BIG GAY TRIBE.

The tribe that will teach me and the tribe that will take care of me and the tribe that I will be able to call my home, my community, my source.

Where is that BIG GAY TRIBE?

I have to say that I have been searching for a long time. I have looked and looked. I have joined in and I have offered, I have traveled far and wide, I have asked and sought in so many places . Well that BIG GAY TRIBE has been found.

“Where is it?” you ask. Well it has been hidden. Hidden for a long time, finally after all of this searching and all of this introspection and all of this sharing Ihave found the BIG GAY TRIBE. It is living inside of me! That TRIBE, all that I seek is inside of me and I have come to believe that it is inside of you.

Now all I have to do is share that part of me with that part of you and we will have a communion. We will have a sharing and we will have a beginning of something that will look like community.

Check it out… Queer Heart Talking Circle – Creating Radical Community

Searching for the TRIBE Queer Heart Talking Circle - Creating Radical Community

Searching for the TRIBE Queer Heart Talking Circle – Creating Radical Community

More about CREATING RADICAL QUEER COMMUNITY at www. phillipcoupal.ca or email Phillip at phillip@phillipcoupal.ca

Being QUEER is this Radical?

Being DIFFERENT is this Radical?

I don’t know the answer to these questions. I have been looking, seeking and sorting out where I fit in in the BIGGER QUEER community.

Over the years, I have gone along into so many different groups and events, places and communities, searching for that QUEER identity. I have looked for the place that I will fit in. I have found identities that seem relevant to me and yet I have never been able to experience that integrated feeling of FITTING IN. I have looked at what FAERIE means. I have looked at what GAY means. I have looked at QUEER SPIRITUAL communities. I have looked at the MEN’S movement. I have looked at WORKSHOPS and RETREATS for GAY MEN. Although I can identify I never really feel that I am a part of that bigger gay or queer world.

I have discovered that this feeling of difference is rooted for my in my inability to assimilate myself into whatever group I might be a part of. Not that I don’t long for that feeling of being a part of. Not that I don’t yearn for that feeling of being like everyone else. I do. I want so much to be able to fit in and when I am unable I am often disappointed.

Recently I have looked at the work of Harry Hay, supposedly a founder of MODERN QUEER culture. What I got from reading and exploring Hay was that the act of ASSIMILATING is contrary to QUEERNESS.

“We know how to live through their eyes. We can always play their games, but are we denying ourselves by doing this? If you’re going to carry the skin of conformity over you, you are going to suppress the beautiful prince or princess within you.” ~ Harry Hay

I can totally understand this. At this point in my life, my inability to be chameleon like and simply conform myself and bend myself and my expression of who I am into any structured or even unstructured group seems an impossibility.  This is at the root of why I never felt like I fit in. I simply was not able to give myself over to ASSIMILATION. I have never, in all of my life, been able to say to any group I am fully a part of you. I have never been able to say I identify so strongly with your beliefs that I can say YES I am this kind of QUEER, YES I am this kind of MAN, YES I am this kind of MALE, YES I am this kind of GAY. Until reading Hay, and understanding his statement about ASSIMILATION and how QUEER this inability to ASSIMILATE actually is. My own identity has become stronger in knowing that I DO NOT have to ASSIMILATE. I can actually feel myself as QUEER.

This sense of INDIVIDUAL QUEERNESS is totally RADICAL to me!

I think I have finally found my QUEER IDENTITY. This identity is rooted in that part of me that feels so different, so unlike what is out there. I feel best when I simply embrace my difference and let myself feel powerful. I feel much better, much happier, when I am able to feel myself as being, UNUSUAL and INDIVIDUAL. This RADICAL INDIVIDUALITY is not unlike each star, planet and constellation all through the universe. Each are individual and totally different. I am able to be myself when I realize and operate out of a principle or value that says it is OKAY, actually GOOD be be DIFFERENT, to NOT ASSIMILATE and let my RADICAL QUEER SELF shine.

This great sense of difference has led me to a place where I am calling out to those others who feel this difference. Those who feel this queerness. Who feel separate from the rest. This call is to gather, share, and commune together. Celebrating DIVERSITY. Celebrating DIFFERENCE. Celebrating QUEERNESS.

Please know that I am looking for a group of committed and loving men to start this journey into QUEER COMMUNITY. This communing will take place at gatherings that I will call the: Queer Heart Talking Circle.

For more information about these gatherings, which will take place on the second Sunday of any month, at the Awaken Studio, please contact me through the website or email me at: phillip@phillipcoupal.ca

Queer Heart Talking Circle - Awaken Studio - Toronto MORE? phillip@phillipcoupal.ca

Queer Heart Talking Circle – Awaken Studio – Toronto MORE? phillip@phillipcoupal.ca

 

 

 

 

 

Sexy Summer Day Camp.

  • Come OUT and experience your Erotic Potential.
  • Discover the Deepest Pleasures of YOUR Body

Create your OWN Kama Sutra – awaken the Pleasures and Treasures of your Erotic Life
Awaken Studio July 14 to 21

www.phillipcoupal.ca — at Awaken Studio

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